In the past 24 hours there have two deaths. I hesitated blogging about them because one person I didn’t know particularly well, and one I did not know at all. I didn’t want to act like I was baiting for sympathy when that is clearly not my intention. But I’ve been thinking about this all day and just wanted to write something.
The first person who passed was a friend of my good friend. I hung out with him a couple of times, at a party and concert, and then communicated with him every so often on Facebook. I did not know him well at all. The last time I saw him was over a year ago. I was always hearing about him and his shenanigans through my friend, almost like he was a character from a television show. I received the news late last night that he had killed himself. And even though I didn’t know him well, I couldn’t help feeling sad for him and the disturbing circumstances of his death. I thought about his family, his friends, and my good friend, all mourning his loss. It is just such a waste for such an intelligent, funny guy to take his own life. I hope he has found peace and that those close to him will be able to get through this difficult time.
Then this evening, my brother found out that a friend of his from middle school was killed early this morning. This man survived a nine-month tour in Afghanistan as a Marine, only to get killed crossing the street during his first night in NYC. It is just so unfair.
People in their twenties shouldn’t have to question their own mortality but it happens, unfortunately. As much as we like to pretend that death is a foreign concept, that it happens to everyone except us, it’s all too prevalent. When death happens to someone we know, even if just in passing, it can’t be as easily dismissed. I’ve known several classmates who died since I’ve graduated from high school and even though I wasn’t close to any of them, I still mourned their passing. People in their twenties shouldn’t have to die. Well, no one should, but especially not people under, say, 95.
Randomness in life can be a blessing. I owe so many of my best moments in life to random happenings or spontaneous decisions. At the same time, that same randomness can be a curse. We don’t have any say on what day we draw our last breath. All we can do is toss a coin, walk away, and live life the best we can, to the fullest potential possible. Embrace those people around you who you love and draw strength from them. Don’t fear what life will bring you because as long as you have a strong network of people who love you fiercely, you can get through anything.